you are listening to grow a Thriving Practice podcast
this is episode 92 how to stop hiding
my name is Jillian Faldmo
and I am the
business and life coach
for sound and energy medicine practitioners
who want to turn their practices into aligned careers
that point toward freedom
flexibility
and fulfillment
this is grow a thriving practice podcast
well hello there
it's been a little bit
I'm so happy to be here with you today
um I hope that you're doing something enjoyable
one of my favorite things to do
when I'm listening to podcast is walking
I love walking and listening to podcast
and sometimes I'll throw on a podcast fun
you know if I've got to do some boring housework
or something like that
um so let me just update you on
on where things have been at
I know it's been a couple weeks since I last published
I just got done teaching Advanced Module 1
Biofield tuning in San Diego with the founder
Eileen Mccusick
and my husband Matt
and it was a really amazing experience
not only were the students incredible oh my gosh
I just have to say
I love biofield tuning students and practitioners
and that's why I do what I do right now
you know in coaching and training
we're taught to select a niche and you know
select Anish that you feel like you can help
that you feel like you feel really passionate about
and I just you know
I could have gone weight loss
I could have gone relationship coaching
I could have gone
you know coaching stepmoms
um but I really had this
desire to stay with the biofield tuning community
and I just wanted more ways to support and um
be surrounded by the people that I really
truly love so much
so it was just an amazing experience to be in person
with a group of 25 practitioners um
and Eileen and Matt
and what's really fun about this is that it was
six years ago that Matt and I met
at that same venue that we taught at so um
that was super special
and we just celebrated our six year anniversary
a couple days ago
um so really feeling
feeling a lot of love um
just you know
between Matt and I
but also he felt it from Eileen
you know she mentioned something about Matt and I
and how we met
and how we're book ends
and had a few students come up and um
just comment on
you know the connection that's between us
and so that was really great um
the other not so great news
but something that I've been
you know just processing over the last week or so
is before we left for the trip
I had to make the hardest decision
I've ever had to make in my entire life
I had to um
say goodbye to my
I'm starting to tear up now
to my kitty Rumi
he was 12 years old
and you know
he's he was
went through a lot with us
um with me in particular um
I adopted him in Vermont
and I had never had a cat before
and the woman who was adopting him to me said
if you've never had a cat before
you're gonna love this one
and oh my gosh
she has no idea how right she was
he was such a special cat um
he moved across the country
from Vermont to California
and then to Oregon
and he's just tolerated so much
you know through getting so many pets and
dog sitting and cat sitting
and all the things and
he just holds a really special place in my heart
so if you've ever lost a pet
you know exactly what I'm experiencing and like
the grief is really real
and I'm feeling the waves
and when I was in San Diego
I visited the Philosopher's Stone
which is a crystal shop down there
and I really
I went there with the intention of um
finding something that I could carry with me
that would really be a symbol
of him and his love from the other side and um
I got a morganite pendant
um and I'm wearing it now
and I'm holding it as I speak to you
and it's just
it's just comforting
you know having that kind of symbol
so I think over the next few months
I'm gonna continue to you know
collect and create things that just remind me of him
so that I you know
he's still he's still with me um
so thank you for sending your love my way and
and holding space as I share that with you
so I don't cry ever on the podcast
but I think that's
you know I'm just
I think that's just gonna be moving through me
over the next
who knows how long
um like I said
grief is its man
it's intense
um thankfully
I have my friend no Amy
who I haven't talked to yet
but she's um
she's a tuner that um
helps people with grief and
anyway no Amy
if you're listening
we'll be talking soon haha
so today's episode is about um
kind of this topic of hiding
and you know
let me talk about the backstory of this first
so when we were in the advanced training in San Diego
Eileen you know
was being curious
as Eileen was
and she was asking
why aren't there more practitioners listed
on the practitioner directory
so for those of you who don't know
the biofield tuning community
they have their own practitioner directory
if you go to Biofield tuning com
there you can find a practitioner
they're all over the world
and I think there's about 3,000 practitioners
don't quote me on that
I'm not sure
I think that's kind of what we had guessed
and less than half of those practitioners
are listed on the directory um
and Eileen was just curious like why
why aren't there more practitioners
and I said I said
I know why you know
I've been practitioning
I've been coaching practitioners for a few years now
and I know that there's at least three reasons
after talking to people
and so I'm gonna share those with you today
because I have a feeling that
many of you are gonna resonate with some of these
and you can just
you know listen to my thoughts as I share them
it's a pretty quick um
podcast episode
but I wanted to put it out there
because sometimes you know
we have this thing that we wanna do
whether it's
putting ourselves on a practitioner listing
or getting the word out
or you know
taking that last
final step to get our business going
and we don't necessarily have the awareness to
what's holding us back
like we find ourselves pretty stuck in
uh you know
not doing the thing that we wanna be doing
sorry I'm a little distracted
cause the kid just came in
and she's talking right outside the door
but um so here
here are some of the reasons why um
and I'm talking specifically about
you know getting yourself on a directory
putting yourself out there in terms of business
one of the reasons is that
practitioners
or you don't feel competent enough yet
even though you're certified and
this can look like you know
having the thoughts like
I need more practice
I'm not good enough yet um
and my thoughts about this are
and I shared this with Eileen
and we both were kind of like
I know it's
it's interesting right
because you have the training
you've gone through the training
you've read the books
you've done the practice comes
you've done the homework
you've done it all
and you have your certificate
and there's still this thought like
I need more
I'm not competent enough enough yet
but guess how you're gonna get competent
well No. 1 you
you are because you have all those things
but if you're still not feeling that way
for whatever reason
the way you're gonna get competent is to
work with clients
it's gonna be to put yourself out there
so we think that before we put ourselves out there
we need to be at a certain level of training
but we can't get to that certain level of
training or practice until we put ourselves out there
and that can feel a little scary for some of you right
you know I've heard
I don't feel ready to charge
okay then don't charge yet
I mean you should be charging
but if you're certified
you have a skill um
that is valuable
right but if that's what's holding you back
just start just start working with people sure
offer people free sessions
or offer people discounted sessions
just so you can get the practice that you desire
okay so let's talk about this second reason
um one of the things that gets in the way
of you putting yourself out there
is feeling like hiding feels safer
I actually talked with someone at the training who said
you know I think I want some coaching from you
I've just been hiding
I've just you know
I don't want to put myself out there
I feel like I feel safer hiding
and one of the things I asked her is
what do you think
specifically you're hiding from
and I also asked my clients
that's when it comes up
and every person
every time has a hard time answering
they they really start with
I don't know
and so that's one of the interesting things about fear
is that we have a fear of something
we're not sure what it
what it is and we
our brain just doesn't wanna go there
it's just like
automatically
I'm scared I'm not gonna move any further
right so I like to ask this question like
what are you hiding from
and eventually
they come up with some thoughts
one of them is
I'm afraid that if I put myself out there
and promote my business more openly
I'll be judged
or I'll be criticized
or I'll be rejected by others
um people not might
might not like what I have to offer
um maybe my ideas won't be good enough
and so it's that fear of rejection
that's holding them back
from taking the bold steps to grow their business
one of the other things that I hear is
they're afraid of making a mistake
or they're afraid of failing publicly
they've seen other entrepreneurs
you know fail in some way
and face backlash or get negative reviews
and it scares them
to think that the same thing could happen
um another one is a nagging fear that
I might think a lot of us can relate to this
a nagging fear that
they're not an expert yet in their field
and people are gonna see right through you and um
and judge and
um you know
it's this whole imposter syndrome
preventing us from putting ourselves out there
another one is a fear
um of attracting too much attention
or not being able to handle the pressure or demands
that come with having a practice
you know I hear that a lot with people as this
they're afraid the flood gates are going to open
and they're just gonna have so much responsibility
that they won't be able to handle it
and I just wanna say with that
that's all within our control
like that's a whole other podcast episode
about saying yes when you mean yes
and saying no when you mean no
when the floodgates open
you can build a dam right
I don't know
no like seriously though
you don't have to get everybody
that requests an appointment in your calendar
that day or that week
you can start to schedule out
and that would actually be amazing
because if you start to have a wait list
of about two to three months
you can start offering group sessions
just like that
and have that demand there okay
and then the last one that I've heard
kind of more rarely
but I have heard it
is a concern about privacy and safety
so they're hiding
because they feel like putting themselves out there
means exposing some personal details
um and you know
maybe there's a potential for online harassment
or threats or
um you know
losing your job
because you have interest in these other things
all of these fears
you know all of these examples that I listed
they're valid
putting yourself out there requires risk in some way
whether that's a risk of rejection
of embarrassment
failure or safety
we're taking risks every day
though every day
so it's interesting that we put such a focus on
and I think it's because it's so new for so many of you
but we put such a focus on
the risk of having a business
and being an entrepreneur and being a practitioner
but you're taking risks every day
think about it
every time you get in the car
you're taking a risk
right because you can't control the outcome
and it is the same thing with having a business
we can't control what other people
are going to think of us
or what the economy does
or what some weird creep does online
but just like we can't control everything that happens
when we get into a car
we take precautions um
we fasten our seatbelts
we pay attention to traffic lights and
rules of the road
and we drive under the speed limit
you know things like that
we take the risk
we take the risk of getting in the car
knowing that we've done our part to prepare
and notice how you're not focusing on this everyday
you're not focusing on
the risk of getting into a car each day
mostly because you've shown your brain so many times
that getting into a car is actually pretty safe
you know more often than not
you've been safe
um and so you don't focus on the risk very much
you're focusing on where you wanna go that day
you wanna go to the grocery store
you wanna go to the park
wherever it is that you're going in that car
so I wanna invite you to do
the same thing with your business
acknowledge that there's always going to be a risk
that emotional risk
the financial risk
the safety risks
and do what you can to prepare and move forward anyway
focusing on your goals and serving other so I do
so I do have a little agenda here in this episode
right and like
I really wanna inspire you not to hide
to put yourself out there
especially if having a business
having a practice
is you know
the idea that you have for yourself
um that's gonna create a life full of fulfillment
and a life of passion and service
that's my agenda here
is to inspire you to move forward anyway
now I have one more thing
that I've heard a lot from my clients
and um that is
you know why
you're hiding
you're not feeling ready
in some way
and whether that's your website
or having your business license
or having a location
or you know
you can come up with all kinds of logistical reasons
not to move forward
because you're not feeling ready
and I've seen it all
I've seen practitioners launch thriving practices
without a website or any type of marketing
I've seen them practice without insurance
I'm not suggesting that you do that
um but I want you to know that ready really is
whenever you decide that it is
so I just want you to notice
if you're using the excuse
of not having a location
or a website
or some other logistical step
as a reason not to move forward
and there's definitely like
there's a difference between like
I don't know
really wanting that foundation
this kind of ties into
the thing that I was talking about before
you want the precautions
you want to prepare
but if we're heavily focused on the fear
heavily focused on the risk
we're gonna get stuck in the preparation
and not move forward
so what I was working with a client the other day
and you know
she gave me this big list of um
things that she wanted to accomplish
in order to launch her business
and we just kind of chipped through all
what are the essentials
so look at that
if you have a list like that
look at the list
what are the things that feel
in integrity for you to have done
and marked as complete in order to move forward
and what are the things that can kind of
develop and grow with you and evolve over time
that they don't have to be done
I don't want you to wait
until you find the perfect place
or that have the perfect website
because believe me
you will always find something to improve
it'll never be perfect
so just start somewhere
you have my full permission
not that you need it
but if you feel like you need someone's permission
to just start where you are
and put yourself out there
go for it and of course
if you need any help with this at all
I'm here um
you can grab the
harness your emotional awareness to grow your business
roadmap at gillianfallmo
com that can take you through the process of
feeling the fear
really leaning into it
and moving forward from a place of
maybe more confidence
right all right my friend
that's all I have for you today
and I hope this was helpful
it was a little short
a little might have been a little all over the place
the kids are literally screaming outside
the office door right now
I gave the I actually gave them permission
I said go ahead and make as much noise as you want
cause I have this microphone
where you probably can't hear them
but it was actually really distracting
so I'm not gonna do that next time
alright I'll see you in the next episode
take care bye
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